Saturday, 15 August 2020

Suicide: An Option for No Option!

    

"Suicide is not the option." Everyone says this. And I agree. It is not the option. Things do get tough in life and it feels as if it is impossible to deal with them. But we just have to think that this is not how it will be in the future and then just let it go.

Sushant Singh Rajput committed "suicide" on 14th June 2020. Well it was indeed shocking. Why would someone that rich,that famous, commit suicide? A lot of people called him a coward,they said that he couldn't even deal with his problems. Well suicide is a big deal,isn't it? If he did it,he must've had a reason. Maybe that was too big, maybe too small. But it was definitely out of our understanding and hence, we have no right to call him a coward for this.

I remember that I thought that if he did have problems regarding his Bollywood career, he should've just left it all. He was pretty rich after all, he could've bought a house in some mountains or something and should've lived there peacefully. But I guess somethings really do eat you up on the inside,huh?

And well, Sushant's girlfriend is now being held responsible for his "suicide". Not a rival, frenemy or a stranger, but the girl he fell in love with. It's ironic how people closest to you could do so much damage to you. Having people you love is a true blessing but these people do hurt us sometimes . Maybe they don't even realise it  but they do. But giving up on life because of these people isn't right either. Future will be better. It has to be. Go away from people who hurt you as soon as you can because life is too precious to give up on because of some inconsiderate and mean people.

Sushant was a self-made man. He started from the bottom and indeed, he reached the top. He had money, fame, talent and perseverance. Then what led him to this? Maybe lack of self-respect? Maybe too many restrictions? Maybe too many ambitions? Maybe not having anyone who understood him? Maybe something else.

Whatever it was, we are no ones to judge him for it. As I have mentioned this before a lot of times, he had everything, at least everything materialistic. So if a person gave up on life after reaching the top, there has to be a reason.

Though I do stand by what I said in the beginning, suicide is not the option but if someone did commit suicide, for them it must've been the only option. Not having anything to look forward to, not being able to express yourself or getting called out for expressing yourself, having no one who listens to you, these are all problems and so are not being able to achieve your goals, having too many expectations, feeling like you are never enough and feeling like a disappointment.

There are many possible reasons why Sushant committed "suicide". And if he didn't, then I do stand by the people who are asking for justice. Nepotism is indeed a huge problem in India. There should be a fight against it. So many people like Sushant would benefit from it. Real talent should always prevail over money and reputation.

In the end, I would like to give my heartfelt condolences to Sushant and every other person who ever committed suicide and to their families. You all tried, but things must've been very tough. I am so sorry for that. Rest in peace.


For people who think that it is the option:

Suicide prevention helpline-91-9820466726 (AASRA)



Edit: Since I am a beginner, I request all of you to kindly give me suggestions so that I can improve myself. And also, I've got a great suggestion already!

So I was told that now 'commit suicide' is not considered the appropriate usage. Psychologists and mental health literature now use 'died by suicide' instead. Reason being that 'commit suicide' is like committing a mistake. Hence, 'died by suicide'.



104 comments:

  1. A very well articulated blog. Suicide is definitely not an option. There is always the last option of 'Letting Go' or ignore.... A situation/ problem is our creation, our product... It can't be bigger to destroy one. Well laid out article. Keep blogging more.

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  2. Dear Kartiki, the article is very well thought and written. Correctly stated suicide can never be an option. Every problem has a solution, once has to look around.
    All the very best for all your future endeavours

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  3. Very well written. My compliments.

    I do feel sorry for individuals who succumbed to pressures/stress and gave it all up and wish that God gives some willpower.. somehow to such individuals.. so as to motivate them against taking such a BIG step.
    May justice prevail in the case of Sushant.

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  4. Very well written. My compliments.

    I do feel sorry for individuals who succumbed to pressures/stress and gave it all up and wish that God gives some willpower.. somehow to such individuals.. so as to motivate them against taking such a BIG step.
    May justice prevail in the case of Sushant

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  6. Couldnt agree more . V well said .
    Ups and down are part of life .nepotism like other evils co-exists with humans but on the positive side there are innumerable success stories too in the profession he was in .
    Intelligence is the biggest asset of humans and its disheartening to see when intelligence becomes its own enemy .
    Keep up the good work kartiki and hope your positive contribution will be part of a postive change .
    Regards

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  7. Flow of emotions and sharing of thought process is pivot for our life.it helps immensely in sort of healthy life.in the end wether it was society ,your loved ones or the person himself, but sharing is caring. Well written kritti. Proud of you.
    Annie aunty ;)

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  8. Well written Kriti.No one knows what's going on in someone's life. Ups and downs are part of life,one should know how to balance both.

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  9. It happens that when a person feels that he quite strong within and can take on the world, and one day gets stabbed from behind.. probably that's what breaks a human being and looks to suicide as an option. And it should not be. There is always a second chance. Best blow is when you take a step back and forth.. so suicide is never and option. To fight it out you should have friends.. in the mountains.. :)

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  10. Mountains and friends are indeed the best combination. Thank you so much uncle.

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  11. Very well written kriti... Well done & keep the good work. All d best!!!

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  12. Very well written kriti... Well done & keep the good work. All d best!!!

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  13. Well written Kritti!!
    As said,"sharing is caring",I too believe if you care for your loveones then please share your problems.

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  14. A nice article
    Keep it up Kartiki.

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  15. Kriti ji it depends upon the mental situation though every one wants to live and enjoy their life

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  16. Very well written Kriti.. this kind of write ups are necessary for this time,with so much of unnecessary pressures in life people are taking this drastic action..
    Well done
    Keep writing
    Keep shining

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  17. Very well written and explained.....keep up the good work Kartiki
    God Bless you abundantly

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  18. The way you handled the topic Kartiki you truly showed yourryour experience, knowledge, and critical thinking. Now a days i believe people look at short term achievements and don't wish to endure the struggle of life for them suicide is an easy bait. But i think when they are half way through the entire process of attempt to suicide victims would be regretting on taking such a step but it's way too late to turn back. We should always be keeping our eyes and ears opened for people around us for signs etc. May be we can stop it from someone succumbing to such a dress.

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    1. I totally agree with you. Thank you so much.

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  19. Very well written article.. Keep it up kartiki.. All the best

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  20. Excellent Kriti. Well narrative and expressive blog. Keep going......

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words. Thanks a lot!

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  21. Well written ... Ups and downs are part of life. If you can handle ups you will have the courage to handle downs. Just believe that doors of solutions are always open..

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  22. Dear kartiki very well written and expressed I truly stand by your thought. Keep it up god bless you ����

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  23. Good going girl ... only the optimistic way can help when times get tough .. keep blogging 😍

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  24. Hi Kriti, it's thought provoking! It seems you have developed a great deal of understanding of the issue. It's something that is troubling every parent, every family. So good work! I guess the only way for us is to not judging anybody who takes such a step and the people around them unless proven guilty. Keep expressing your thoughts. We all need to vent out in some constructive and creative way. Well done 👍, Shraddha.

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    1. Supporting the family of the dead is indeed very important. The loss of a loved one is a big deal, we should not further worsen their condition. Thank you so much!

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  25. Dafn krne se pehle nabj janch lena sahb..Kalakaar umda tha khi kirdaar me na ho...

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    1. Thank you very much for going through my article. :)

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  26. Wonderfully written Blog Kartiki,
    I wish you all the luck. Keep writing. God bless 😀

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  27. Nicely thought & written blog. Keep it up dear Kartiki.Best wishes.
    Ananta Pathak

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    1. Thank you so much for the appreciation and blessings.

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  28. Hello Kriti, very well written.Keep it up...God bless u...

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  29. Very well penned thoughts Kartiki...Life is a precious gift which should be treasured and suicide is a momentous decision,just a fraction of second after which you are no more to regret your own decision.So stay connected and speak your heart out.

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    1. I completely agree with you aunty. Thank you so much.

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  30. Very well penned thoughts Kartiki...Life is a precious gift which should be treasured and suicide is a momentous decision,just a fraction of second after which you are no more to regret your own decision.So stay connected and speak your heart out.

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  31. Very well penned thoughts Kartiki...Life is a precious gift which should be treasured and suicide is a momentous decision,just a fraction of second after which you are no more to regret your own decision.So stay connected and speak your heart out.

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  32. Very well written kriti... Well done & keep it up. All the best

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  33. Beautifully written Kartiki.

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  35. Very well articulated Kartiki, keep up the blogging and may we see many more thought provoking articles! Best Wishes

    Madhuri Venu

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  36. Congratulations dear Kartiki for nicely written very first blog.
    It is true that suicide can never be an option for any problem ,big or small. Even in the worst situation one has to remember the probable'This too shall pass' and face it bravely.
    Keep on writing.Best wishes for your future endeavours.

    Ganesh Pathak Nagpur

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    1. Read parable in place of probable

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    2. I do agree. Everything bad will surely pass. Thank you so much. :)

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  37. Very well written blog kartiki👏...keep it up

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  38. Nicely written. Life is definitely a precious gift given by God. I believe there is always an option especially sharing with your friends helps.

    Keep Writing!!

    Dr. Sandeep Rawat,
    Hyderabad

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  39. Hi kriti...well said, life is precious,one should fight till the end but in case of Sushant singh Rajput he was not a coward to take his life.There is some mystery behind his death which needs to come out. Lets pray that the family and Sushant gets justice. Very well written...keep it up. All the best sweet heart. Archana

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    1. That fight itself is called life. Thank you so much! Truth shall prevail.

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  40. Very well articulated Kartiki. There will always be ups and downs in the life and we all have to learn to deal with them. At the same time, we need to support and understand someone who is feeling lonely and depressed. Very well written article! Keep up the good work. Atish

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    1. I fully agree with you. Thank you so much. :)

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  41. Very well written
    Suicide is not an option,life is very precious

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  42. Dear Kartiki,

    First of all congratulations on your first blog👍

    It was very well described with right example of Shushant case.

    Just want to add a quote..

    Place your hand over your heart, can you feel it? That is called purpose. You’re alive for a reason so don’t ever give up.”

    Sometimes suicidal people want to die simply because they believe they have no reason to continue living. It may sound simple, but the fact that you’re alive and your heart is still beating and pumping blood around your body can be reason enough to keep living. Many depressed people are struggling because they're unhappy with their life and work and cannot find a specific life purpose.


    But, in reality, you don’t need a purpose or reason for being alive. However, if you are alive, you still have the opportunity to do whatever you want in life. Although you may not have awakened to a specific life mission yet, while your heart is still beating you have time to explore what your life purpose could be and find happiness.

    And at last want to say...

    Keep it up beta...

    Rgds
    Gunjan Saini
    Bazpur

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    1. That was very deep and I do agree with you. Being alive is a blessing in itself and this blessing should be valued. Living this life to the fullest IS very important.
      Thank you so much1

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  43. Dear Kartiki,

    First of all congratulations on your first blog👍

    It was very well described with right example of Shushant case.

    Just want to add a quote..

    Place your hand over your heart, can you feel it? That is called purpose. You’re alive for a reason so don’t ever give up.”

    Sometimes suicidal people want to die simply because they believe they have no reason to continue living. It may sound simple, but the fact that you’re alive and your heart is still beating and pumping blood around your body can be reason enough to keep living. Many depressed people are struggling because they're unhappy with their life and work and cannot find a specific life purpose.


    But, in reality, you don’t need a purpose or reason for being alive. However, if you are alive, you still have the opportunity to do whatever you want in life. Although you may not have awakened to a specific life mission yet, while your heart is still beating you have time to explore what your life purpose could be and find happiness.

    at last want to say...

    Keep it up beta...

    Rgds
    Gunjan Saini
    Bazpur

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  44. Dear Kartiki,

    Very well written,I do agree too Suicide definitely no a option, life is very precious god gift
    You took example of Sushant case, but In my view he got murderedd•

    Regards,
    Kapil P

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    1. If he did get murdered then even I stand for justice.
      Thank you so much uncle.

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  45. Dear Kartiki
    I must compliment you for the maiden blog that you have penned. ....your teenager zeal and adolescent thoughts are much evident. ...indeed a commendable job.....and I do agree that even a celebrity has his /her blues. Even super rich and influential people cannot escape the bitter realities of everyday life. ....if I may add. .....taking away life is a moment's decision one doesn't get to regret of. Had there been some close relative or a well wisher alongside a precious life could have been saved. ...so in the present day world when the life is more pushy than cushy we all get stressed and subdued therefore we must train our mind and souls to face it and come out of it rather intact more poised and learned. A not too flamboyant a city based chap wanting to make it big got nipped too early. .does it also calls for learning to feel contented when a person has achieved large enough. ....well I leave that for your next blog. ....meanwhile the plot behind Sushant Singh Rajput's death appears murkier than we thought so far. .....Gud luck blogger

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    1. You've written so well,uncle. My god. I am looking forward to your future opinions on my blogs too. Thank you so much.

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  46. The way you handled the sensitive issue showed resilience, knowledge, and critical thinking. We would love to get your perspective on other issues too...Great going..dear kartiki

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  47. The way you handled the sensitive issue showed resilience, knowledge, and critical thinking. We would love to get your perspective on other issues too...Great going..

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  48. Dear Kartiki,
    Congratulations and all the very best for future..👍

    Zindagi na milegi dobara and suicide is defenately not an option for any problem.

    If there is a problem, there is a solution, and where is solution there is progress.

    Keep blogging and motivating..👍

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    1. Thank you so much. And it's true that " Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara." Thanks a lot!

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  49. Dear Kartiki,

    Great thoughts..and very well composed blog...I am completely inline with your conclusion and thoughts. We have to keep alive our inner fighting spirit from negatively.

    Keep writing and spread your views.

    Congratulations and all the best..

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  50. A well thought blog. Suicide is never an option and one has to look at the world with optimism. At times even the biggest situations can be overcome by slightest of optimism. Keep writing and looking forward to see new work from you. All the best!

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    1. Optimism is indeed the key to a blissful life. Thank you!

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  51. A well written piece. Yes, suicide is not an option but criticizing anyone who did commit it is wrong. Most of the time it is not the outer world that take us to our darkest days but the black hole that is created inside us, maybe due to us or due to other. Also the worst damage is never caused by unknowns but by the ones we consider our closest people. Reasons can be various; breakups, fights, failures, anxiety, mood swings, loss in business, and so many more and at times it may seem that there is no way out of the mess that is created but one must look at things to distract their mind, no matter how hard it is, be it music or walks or writing or anything. Also we should never compare our lives with others as everyone is living their own lives and grass is always greener on the other side. One must remember that giving up on life is not an alternate but if someone does we have no right to criticize them as we are not the one in their shoes and for everyone their problems is the biggest. At the end I wanna request everyone going through hard times to have strength and to those who are capable enough to help others please do so:)

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  52. I fully agree with you. Judging and calling out the dead is just sick. We should just pray for the gone and for their peace. Thank you so much.

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  53. Kartiki, you have penned down a very clear perspective. I appreciate your clarity of thought and compassion for someone whom you dont know. Its an appreciable face of your very humane personality. Your selection of words and articulation is perfect. God bless you.

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  54. Bang on Kartiki! Very well put!

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